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Quote certifiedhumane Replybullet Topic: thoughts on "tacky-ness" of tongue piercing?
    Posted: January/25/2012 at 4:15am
hey guys well i am in the process of learning what types of piercings i am into and which ones i might be interested in getting for myself..
i had remembered back when i was maybe 15-18 when I was stretching my tongue piercing and it brought back so many fond memories, not in a sexual way, just in the fact that i really enjoyed the whole process of stretching and "having the piercing" and such . .
well i am 22 now and I was sitting around thinking and realized how much i liked it and was feeling sort of nostalgic.
the problem is not so much me but everyone else. i understand tongue rings have a tendency to make someone seem almost slutty or tacky. me myself i don't think that way of a person, however i can see how people in our society have placed that "stereotype" onto it..

i don't do things in my life for other people, however im having a problem with this one because i am a really stand-up guy who would not be getting this for any sexual reasons, that would only be a bonus, so im having trouble with how people would view me..
i mean even myself sometimes, if i think about it, i will do the same thing. sometimes someone just opens their mouth and it's like "wow that looks so tacky" . . 
i want to do it for me and i know who i am as a person however i am struggling with this one, in addition i feel like maybe i am too old for one . .
i don't believe piercings have age requirements however i feel society has made tongue piecings seem to be for teenagers and such . . .

your thoughts on the matter please? i understand it ultimately comes down to  ME however i actually really do care about what other people think i dont want to look immature or "slutty" or something, even though i am a guy i just don't want that kind of "vibe" about myself . .

how would one get over such thoughts as these? this might just be me "blowing it all up into something more than it is" and having a little therapy session/inner monologue session on this forum however i really do care about the stereotypes people place on these types of piercings, as i am in no way tacky or promiscuous in my sexual acts . .
alright guys let me know your feelings :) i really appreciate it :)


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Quote metalbabe Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 4:29am
you modify for yourself, not for society.

if you care that much what others might think of you cos of a piercing that is hidden most of the time, then you might wish to reassess your motivations.

i personally never considered tongue piercings to be tacky -i don'thave one myself purely because i don't feel the need for one- and also because everyone expects me to have one.

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Quote Snotface Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 5:43am
I've not come across that stereotype before, one learns something new every day.

If it'll bring you joy just go ahead and do it, no doubt you'll be glad that you did.

And if, after a while, you find people's reaction to your piercing to be more negative than you're willing to withstand you could always retire it. You've done it before you could do it again :)
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Quote angelfetus Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 5:59am
ive heard various things with regards to Tongue piercing off customers 'isnt it gay?' or 'i want one, but isnt it a bit slutty, like only sluts get them'....

with these kinds of statements i just see it as how THAT person judges other people, and not that its a valid remark.

its like 'eyebrow piercings are for lesbians', now ive watched a lot of porn in my time, and i'm pretty sure ive never seen anyones eyebrow come into play!

bottom line is, you like it, you get it. If anyone gives your grief, then you're just figuring out how narrowminded some people are.
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Quote samantha_sick Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 9:22am
i understand what ur saying.
i find most eyebrow piercings to be "white trash" based on the people who usually get them, BUT I have my eyebrow pierced and i think it looks great with my bone structure. if you like it, keep it.
Currently have 27 piercings
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Quote CheapPerfume Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 9:42am
First off, what's wrong with being a slut. Slut-shaming is stupid. Yes, let's make fun of people for actually ENJOYING sex, instead of seeing it as a job/obligation/etc.

Next, who cares. Be like Cartman and do what you want.
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Quote Keiran1980 Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 11:42am
To not get a tongue piercing because you would be labelled a slut is pretty much the same logic as not speaking to black people because you would be labelled a gang member.

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Even if you've never been there." - Ian Anderson
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Quote evalution Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 1:16pm
i never really understood why people assume that connection or the connection to sex for ANY piercing. there are people who get genital piercings NOT for sexual reasons. when someone immediately concludes that a tongue piercing is for sexual reasons, i immediately am drawn to thinking that the individual assuming that may be extra-focused on sex, not the person with the piercing.
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Quote belle Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 2:01pm
is many years past being a teenager and ive had my tounge done for 25yrs.....so there ya go.Big%20Grin
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Quote feministpizza Replybullet Posted: January/25/2012 at 5:42pm
Just do what you want to do. Don't be concerned with what other folks are doing.
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