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Quote Adam Replybullet Topic: Piercing Babies and Tattooing Nuns!
    Posted: March/19/2013 at 7:25pm


OK, there's no nun tattooing, but the baby piercings part is fo'shizzle.

To pierce the baby or not to pierce the baby, that is the question. Most woman expecting a child, or mothers of newborns, struggle with this question at least once. It seems as though everyone has a piece of expert advice to give you and most of the time they all contradict one another. Some people feel strongly against it, some people are all about it, while others just want to do what is right.

The first thing you should do is consult your trusted pediatrician because, most likely, if you chose to get baby pierced, the piercing studio will want shot records anyway. Let the pediatrician evaluate baby and make sure his or her ears are the right size to be pierced. Sometimes, depending on shot schedule, the physician will ask you to wait a week or so. Sometimes Pediatricians pierce baby ears so you want to make sure to ask about that as well. And we all know how they do it… with a piercing gun of course! Blech!

After the visit with the doctor, new mommies might still be wondering if they should pierce baby sooner or later. Most people would go with sooner because the later you go the dirtier the hands that tug on the healing pierced ear. If a pierced ear is trying to heal and there are dirty hands all over it, you could risk infections and other unwanted problems. I am sure most of us know an adult that doesn’t stop fooling with their piercings. So it is not something everyone just grows out of.

The "Circle of Moms" members (I think to think it's Cult of Moms ;) suggest that if you don’t pierce baby’s ears while they are infants that you should just wait until they are tweens and can handle the responsibility of keeping their ears clean.

When my daughters pediatrician told me that "we can pierce your daughters ears now" at the whopping age of 1 month, I about decked her. When I politely said, "no thank you" she looked at me as if I grew a third arm out of my forehead. Apparently, it's not cool to NOT pierce babies ears. I was going against the social norm, again, by NOT piercing my 1 month old baby girls ears. Ummm... ok.

My wife and I talked about it, and this was one decision that I just wouldn't budge on. My arguments:

1. A one month old has about zero immune system. We couldn't take her outside, or let people hold her because it's too easy for her to get sick. They have to slowly build it up over months. So why the hell would I want to puncture here and give her a great way of introducing all kinds of bacteria directly into her blood stream?

2. They use a piercing gun. That's really all there is to that one. Side note: I told the pediatrician that she could send parents to my studio and with the doctors note, we will pierce the child's ears properly, for free! I all but begged her. But she refused stating, "they never complained". THEY'RE BABIES. How the hell do they complain?

3. My wife and I have piercings, tattoos, and other. As our daughter grows up she will be interested / curious about them and most likely want to get some herself way before 18. Ear piercings are a great introduction for her into the world of body modification. She'll learn that it hurts, don't touch it, take care of it, stop touching it, and you messed up, now repeat until you get it right. The experience of her going through all of that when she can remember it will really make her think about wanting more / larger work and what is really involved with it. The deal I made with my wife is that once our daughter can come up to me, ask to have her ears pierced, explain to me what the procedure is, how to find a good studio, and how to take care of them properly, I will gladly take her to the studio of her choosing to have them done.

I know I'm not the only parent out there that's been damn-near forced to have their child's ears pierced. What did you do?

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Quote pierced_celt Replybullet Posted: March/19/2013 at 10:05pm
I dont have or want kids but if a doctor suggested what yours did id tell him/her to fuck right off.i understand the concept of doing it b4 the baby starts grabbing at it n introducing crap into it,but I also think toddlers shud roll in mud n eat dirt like I used to.dont do it n let the wee one get it done if and when they ask.plus when she arrives to school the next day with 4mm eyelets she'll be the coolest kid there:-D . But I think expecting her to wait until she can explain the dangers/healing methods etc is a bit ott(kids will b kids) .on a side note y does the forums make it so hard to use on a phone? Nice to have u back though n congrats on ur family addition

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Quote AyaMcCabre Replybullet Posted: March/20/2013 at 12:28am
Aside from the whole informed consent thins, my main problem with piercing babies is that a baby can't tell you when something is wrong. I wore jewelry that caused me problems for 9 years and never did anything about it because the symptoms I had were considered normal among my friends and family. In a situation like that no one else would think that there was a problem, and if the kid can't say that it hurts then nothing would be done. Of course, that's also a product of not having a piercer around to tell you that they're not supposed to look like that. Going to a pediatrician with a gun won't solve that one, either.
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Quote sh4ky Replybullet Posted: March/20/2013 at 2:11am
As a dad of four single-digit aged humans, i am dealing with it this way. I am leaving it to their discretion as to when they think they are ready to ask me to get their ear piercings done (the accepted start of body modding). However, like you Adam, there are some criteria they will have to meet. Understand that they may hurt getting pierced, it might hurt for a bit afterwards too. Prove to me they can keep them clean, not play with them, and know the if they have to touch their piercings they need to wash their hands first. If they can't grasp these basic concepts I will say no and that will be the final word until the next time the topic comes up.



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Quote JClaude Replybullet Posted: March/20/2013 at 9:34am
Portugal used to have a strong culture of piercings babies ears at a tender age, some less urban areas might still have a bit, but nothing as it used to be.
My niece never got hers done, and only recently at 15yo she said she wanted her ears pierced. Being the "modded" person in the family and after learning a great deal around here, I took care of it. No fucking piercing guns at a mall, so I took her to a proper piercer where both her lobes got pierced and she also got a tragus piercing, and I kept the nagging going for the duration of the healing process to make sure she kept things clean.


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Quote MontanaPiercer Replybullet Posted: March/20/2013 at 11:24am
I waited until my daughter asked for it, was able to read about, and to discuss it maturely with me. She was 7 when it happened.
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Quote Braids Replybullet Posted: March/20/2013 at 11:11pm
Originally posted by MontanaPiercer

I waited until my daughter asked for it, was able to read about, and to discuss it maturely with me. She was 7 when it happened.
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Quote Azathotep Replybullet Posted: September/29/2014 at 4:44pm
We chose to not have our baby girls pierced as infants. We thought that they should have some say in it. Thankfully we didn't have any boys and had to decide on circumcision.. I had such a hard time with girls ears, I don't think I could have handled the choice on the boy.

Anyway, our oldest daughter decided at 14 that she wanted her ears pierced so we did that. By 16 she has 2 labrets (commonly called snakebites), a toungue piercing, navel piercing, and has stretched her ears to 2ga. All of these were discussed at length and with us and we went with her to a safe piercing studio and provided written consent etc. She is planning more and planning her first tattoo that she can get when she turns 18. I think our acceptance of body modification as a family has kept her safe and healing nicely each time. We haven't had her secretly or unsafely getting pierced behind our backs or getting pierced by amateurs. So, I think it has worked out quite well.

Our youngest decided that she wanted earrings when she was almost 5. We went ahead with it and because we are all pierced and my wife and I are tattooed, she knows about proper care of these things and her ears have healed perfectly. She is just a little more educated about, and exposed to, piercings and such. She states that she doesn't ever want any other piercings and only wants 1 tattoo when she grows up :)

It can be really hard for parents to decide about ear piercing. Obviously I side with parents that wait for the children to be able to ask for them, but I'm not saying any other way is wrong. I'm not here to tell people how to parent.
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