My lobes are stretched to 3/4.
but they are ugly. They look like the inner skin is pushing out through the backside.
I was thinking about letting them close as much as possible and restretching properly to hopefully rid myself of the wretched lobes.
do you think it will help?
any tips and stretching suggestions are much appreciated!

I agree, sounds like you have upgraded too fast and have blowouts. If the blow outs are old.. as in over 3 months old then retire the piercings, use something like emu oil or Bio Oil and massage them morning and night. If you are lucky the holes should shrink down.

If the blow outs are young then dont massage, get a smaller stretcher and insert from back to front, dont fiddle with the piercing and bathe with SSS twice a day...

A photo and some more info would help though! :-)

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